When Communication Has Broken Down, Here’s How Counselling Can Help
November 5, 2017
Sometimes it happens for a reason, sometimes it can happen gradually, but when communication starts to break-down in a marriage your best friend can soon become a stranger to you.
Whilst it is not uncommon for communication to break down in a marriage, it is important to get it back on track as quickly as possible. Often working out what went wrong and trying to fix the problem can lead to the blame game, which can only intensify the situation.
When the communication breaks down, how can counselling help?
Sometimes it might be hard to identify how, when and why the communication stopped in your relationship, and the distance you feel seems to have come from nowhere. Counselling can help you look at where the lines of communication started to deteriorate.
Why do couples stop communicating?
Stress can be a huge factor in couples feeling distant. It might start with a bad day in work, but that might lead to a bad week. People deal with stress in different ways, some internalise it and this can often mean they can be quite guarded, others take their pent-up frustrations out on their partners without realising that they are not the real cause of the issue.
Counselling will help you develop coping tools to deal with stress which bring you and your partner closer together not further apart.
Sometimes one event can define a relationship. If a partner is unfaithful the lines of communication can quickly be torn down and it can be too traumatic for the person to open themselves up to further hurt.
Counselling can help you identify what happened and work towards the next step. This is especially important when children are involved.
Having an unbiased third party can keep discussions on track and keep them constructive and focused. With each partner being so vulnerable, it’s important that sensitivity and understanding is shown to all parties.
When you first met you were each other’s priority and making each other happy was the biggest focus, but then life can get in the way. Whether it’s a career or family you might find you are drifting apart. It’s easy to invest yourself in your career to try and help your family but the end result is that it hurts them, or you have children and they quickly become the focus and making time for each other falls to the wayside.
Counselling can help you find balance. By identifying what is coming between you and finding ways to make each other feel special you can reconnect again.
At Sharman’s Therapy Centre on the Gold Coast you can explore what’s holding you back personally and within your relationship. You can identify shared goals, stories and insights together.